Warning signs of a cyberstalker

1. They start contacting you multiple times a day.
2. They are anxious to move from the dating site to private email, texting, or telephone calls.
3. They keep asking for personal information, where you work, where you went to school They agree with everything you say “as if you were soul mates”.
4. They start talking about how much they like you only after a few chats.
5. They seem to be too interested – too soon. They keep changing their story or somehow it just doesn’t all add up.
6.  They become demanding/controlling wanting to know who your friends are, why you haven’t been online etc.
7. They know things about you that you didn’t tell them.
8. They seem to know when and where you are online. They say “I know you were online because I saw your posts” or they are always showing up in the same chatroom.
9. They start adding your friends and family to their list, even though they don’t know them.
10. They talk about you a lot in forum and online. Make up stories about you or describe going on imaginary dates with you.

For advice on what you should do see our Factsheet "What to do if you are being stalked or harassed online" Also see our Q&As



Last updated on March 3, 2011 by Network for Surviving Stalking